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Killing Me Softly 101 · 5th August 2008, 02:29

Peer Pressure.

These delinquents need to pressure each other to act appropriately.

One acts out. Put the keys (money, tickets, etc.) in you pocket. Tell them that in order to do B they first have to do A. NO A=No B.

Then you say something like I am going to sit over there. When you guys work it out. Come and get me. Then disassociate. Wait them out.

They will first try to negotiate with you.

Once it is obvious that you are immovable.

They will try to determine exactly what the problem is.

Then they will "enforce" their decision on the offender.

Scenerios go something like this:

Kid won't shower. You say, "I am not going out until he showers." You leave some soap and a towel. Call me after he finishes. You leave.

The group then strips and throws offender into the shower. They all magically appear with him showered (and possibly bruised) in a few minutes.

So you are driving along. Someone acts up. You pull off the road, (Starbucks would be nice.) Tell them that you are going inside. That you cannot drive with Ringleader acting in (very specific way). Leave. Tell them when they solve problem, you will drive again. ETC.

This is a method used in "Group Treatment" Centers in USA for delinquents. It is fairly effective. If it really gets to a crisis point.

(Either he goes or I go.) Then quit if he does not go. (Use only as last resort and anticipate getting fired.)

Fired beats "Charged".

5th August 2008, 02:29	#32 (permalink)
Killing Me Softly 101 Killing Me Softly 101 is decompiling. Ex-expat Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: The City of Lost Angels Posts: 2,257 vCash: 674 Rep Power: 553	Re: Korean students are pains in the butt Peer Pressure. These delinquents need to pressure each other to act appropriately. One acts out. Put the keys (money, tickets, etc.) in you pocket. Tell them that in order to do B they first have to do A. NO A=No B. Then you say something like I am going to sit over there. When you guys work it out. Come and get me. Then disassociate. Wait them out. They will first try to negotiate with you. Once it is obvious that you are immovable. They will try to determine exactly what the problem is. Then they will "enforce" their decision on the offender. Scenerios go something like this: Kid won't shower. You say, "I am not going out until he showers." You leave some soap and a towel. Call me after he finishes. You leave. The group then strips and throws offender into the shower. They all magically appear with him showered (and possibly bruised) in a few minutes. So you are driving along. Someone acts up. You pull off the road, (Starbucks would be nice.) Tell them that you are going inside. That you cannot drive with Ringleader acting in (very specific way). Leave. Tell them when they solve problem, you will drive again. ETC. This is a method used in "Group Treatment" Centers in USA for delinquents. It is fairly effective. If it really gets to a crisis point. (Either he goes or I go.) Then quit if he does not go. (Use only as last resort and anticipate getting fired.) Fired beats "Charged". __________________ One day I woke up and my rose coloured glasses were opaque.