Real Friends are not Glass

Real friends are not made of glass, but a lot of people always regard the friend as the glass, meticulously, I'm afraid that I'd break them.

So sometimes, I'd discontent with the friend obviously, but does not dare to express either. Fear that once complains, will conflict; Once conflict, will injure the emotion; Once injure the emotion, will lose this friend, lose a friend for a minor matter, is not too worth, then stand the friend's offense, then, it is angry in the stomach stealthily.

The girl in a university says, her good friend is specially unreasonable, this friend has been in the university for four years, have almost never fetched water, has all let her hit for her; And the friend among public, tell her secret words it that comes out frequently also; She hopes very much this friend can realize one day that should not do it in this way. But this careless friend has not sign changed at all.

"Are these behavioral how you treat her? "

"How am I? I pretend not to care. "

"Then how does she know you are unhappy? "

"Should she know? "

"Do you think she has an exceptional function? Do you know what you are thinking? Since you make the appearance that does not care, she acts as and thinks you did not cared; Since she did not think you cared, certainly she would not make a change. "

"I know I should express one's own mood, however, I fear she is angry, fear to influence our friendship. Though she has some places not good. It is not worth losing a friend for these things. So I recognize. "

There is such an idea, because they all have a kind of very beautiful expectation to the friendship: Hope the friend had better not quarrel forever, does not have anger, understand each other forever. In their mind, once mean the friendship evaporates if the conflict appears. Therefore, they have to avoid the conflict, the result makes between oneself and the other side instead all unhappy.

In fact, not conflicting, the friendship have to end up on a road. Because we have " Conciliate " Skill available. The friendship is a picture that both sides described together, what's happened will draw, conciliate seem in our hand as skin or scraper, draw one mean the picture take, become invalid by mistake. There are rubber and scraper, your picture can continue going down in picture.

It is the same why some people regard the friend as the glass, does not dare to touch, the most important reason, they will not use rubber and scraper, even they never realize that there is this kind of thing of rubber scraper that exists. He friendship just like the glass, once broken, can only abandon. So they have to be meticulous, in this course, oneself is constrained, how could feel happy?

So, conciliation is a skill of necessary study while making friends. If you understand how to conciliate, in associating, you have greater freedom. You will dare to express one's own opinion on the friend, dare to insist on oneself, dare to take the danger of producing the conflict. Because as you know, even if the friendship is injured for the moment, you can dispel this consequence, let the friendship be resumed until the past.

Conciliation is very simple, it is a word which you said voluntarily after refusing to budge, it was you that gave a yellow rose to him by mistake, it was a friendly smile, was a small present ... So long as you really have friendship to exist, it finishes in this way to conciliate Wedding Planning.

The person that will not conciliate, fear to express the opinion on the friend, the result connives at the friend's shortcoming, the friendship that keeps like this is insecure, can't keep going down one day in the future. It is the person not afraid of the conflict exactly, express being discontented in time, it is disharmonious while solving the friends through exchanging, just have really permanent friendship.

After all, friends are not glass, if you take a friend as a glass, forbidding to touch, they will break the sooner the later.