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Old 5th June 2008, 15:39   #1 (permalink)
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Considering Korea....accompanied by my Thai wife

I am currently thinking about moving to Korea but have some questions and reservations.

Before I begin, I should note that I lived/taught there a few years ago---and after completing my one year contract, swore never to return---but my years of 'peak earning potential' are slipping away, and I'm certainly not saving here in LOS. The plan is to stay for two or three years and save as much as possible.

If I go, my Thai wife will be joining me. Have any of you gone to work in Korea accompanied by your Thai spouse? How did he/she adapt to life there? Did all the free time drive them insane? Did it eventually do harm to your relationship? Any comments on racism/xenophobia directed towards dark skinned Thais?

If we go, we'll probably live outside of the major metropolitan areas...do you think this would be advantageous to her/our settling in smoothly.....or just the opposite? We're both essentially homebodies....we enjoy each other's company, and spend most of our time together already.

Any insights or comments would be most appreciated.

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Old 5th June 2008, 15:53   #2 (permalink)
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Re: Considering Korea....accompanied by my Thai wife

Watch out for the militants. They are fighting to not have U.S. beef imported into South Korea. So much so that they're resorting to violence and having to get locked up.

Sheesh! You'd think it was a FTA issue, but really it's just bovine and mad cow.
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Another case of not believing everything you see on tv and hear about PT. It's ineffectual to 99.9% of us here.
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Old 5th June 2008, 16:04   #4 (permalink)
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Re: Considering Korea....accompanied by my Thai wife

To the OP: Jimbo and MisterStretch would be the most help in your situation, I feel. Everyone I know (except those two) who's been there couldn't get out quick enough.

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Old 5th June 2008, 16:08   #5 (permalink)
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Jimbo and MisterStretch would be the most help in your situation
There's also ??? Boy. Can't remember the nic but he always has good stuff regarding Korea.
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Re: Considering Korea....accompanied by my Thai wife

i think the people who do best there are in solid relationships. i didnt meet any expats with foreign spouses that werent teaching (the 2 foreign couples i knew were teachers)...so the key would be visa stuff...if the school covers it, and the money works for you..give it a go man.
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Re: Considering Korea....accompanied by my Thai wife

Not many have a thai bride in-country (that post here) however. That seems to be TTD's main concern.

Quite a few on Daves do, including MrSquirrel and Spliff,...but..... / .

Anyways all her Kor visa info. is over there. My situation might not pertain to others Soooo well.
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I've ne'er been there but I know there's quite a number of American troops and large active bases there. Last I read there was a new one going in...that was also subject to massive radical protests according to the media.
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Very coherent post PT. Keep it up.
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Re: Considering Korea....accompanied by my Thai wife

If the Koreta Probram. (Korean English Teacher Assistiant Program is still running it might be worth a shot.) Government sponsored. The killer a few years ago was the shared accommodation but I hear that was killing the program and they changed it to single accommodation. The wife could be a problem though. But I knew people in it who had kids. So... Anyway the program is run through the Embassies (at least it was several years ago).

Japan also has the JETA Program. Similar but pays more.
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Have any of you gone to work in Korea accompanied by your Thai spouse?

Took my Thai wife to Saudi for 2 years and am now in Korea with my Thai fiancee' (about 6 mos now) She will enroll at a local uni. soon and study the Kor language to satisfy her visa reqs...later (hopefully) will transfer to Kor Biz visa status.

How did he/she adapt to life there?

She's doing pretty well these days, but it was a little rough the first 2 months. I made one rule. She must leave the home once a day minimum. (fresh air, O2 and all that)

Did all the free time drive them insane?

She keeps busy enough with MSNing,...playing housewife (at two apts.), shopping, trying to get a small biz off the ground, ordering thai ingredients (kor website), cooking KILLER thai meals, and unlimited entertainment options....thai tv, movies, etc...

Did it eventually do harm to your relationship?

As I said, we've had some ups and downs but I feel most of that is behind us (some certainly due to other extenuating circumstances that some of you know about

Any comments on racism/xenophobia directed towards dark skinned Thais?

She isn't VERY dark, and I'd say 75% of the Koreans she encounters can see right off that she isn't of their race. (the other 25% try to engage in Korean with her). Of the Kors that she needs to do business with, get served by, etc....I'd say that most of the interaction has to do with them "wanting an international friend." Thus far she has politely declined.

I make her play it VERY safe, as most of us know korean guys get a bit out of control and i do have this fear-driven fantasy of her popping off to the loo and being grabbed by some drunken a-hole who has fond memories of his last "biz trip" to phattaya.

One thing I've learned (maybe obvious) about taking your Thai lady abroad is,...."Get them home MINIMUM once per year. Not true for ALL, of course. Some thai chickies travel and adapt quite well, but it doesn't seem to be the norm...and I'll admit it, Korea is NOT for everyone and is also not the easiest nut to crack.
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Re: Considering Korea....accompanied by my Thai wife

Mrsquirrel could answer the OP's questions - you can find him on Teakdoor or Dave's ESL. I've talked to a few people who have brought their Thai wives/girlfriends over to Korea. Depends where you live, but the locals often look down on them. Again, this is just what I've heard. Spliff would be a good person to talk to as well - he's over at Dave's ESL too.
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My Mrs came to Ulsan with me (actually I came with her). She worked here so it is a bit different for that free time stuff, but she loved it. Settled in quickly, made friends, learnt the lingo and had no problems with racism or xenophobia. She spent 6 months here. The only reason she left was that her contract was up. I stayed to finish my contract.

We both missed Thailand a little, but not too much. We lived in a small town outside of Ulsan. Great place. The Mrs really enjoyed her time here and became a black belt at taekwondo. Some Thai girls love it, some don't, same as us whities really. I am looking forward to getting back to Thailand, I do miss the ball and chain...
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