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    Adopting a child of a new spouse

    This is not just a Thailand question. Has anyone who has married a new wife or husband any thoughts on the pros and cons of legally adopting the new spouseís kids form a previous marriage? Is it something that people do if they marry in the UK?

    I did not go into my first marriage thinking it would end in divorce but it did. What are the implications if you have adopted the children but then get divorced? Would it make a difference?
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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    Mig, are you talking from a legal or emotional standpoint?

    If you have adopted the children you are their legal guardian and responsible for them. Those conditions may be set by a divorce court...but for all practical purposes the adopted children are yours.

    Yes, I'm planning on doing the same thing next year. I know that when I adopt them that I will be the person responsible for them until they reach their majority. And I will do it knowing that I take on that responsibility.

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    i'm divorced - aint no way i'm letting some other cvnt adopt my kid!

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    KW - thats because you are a good father. My kid's father abandonded him and his two sisters and mother and never sees them.

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    ^^ gonna try to raise damaged goods?

    that is something that happens often in LoS
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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    Quote Originally Posted by mig
    KW - thats because you are a good father. My kid's father abandonded him and his two sisters and mother and never sees them.
    ...a noble cause for sure...in the states, once you have legal custody, that's it, unless you legally relinquish it to someone else...some step fathers have even had to pay child support after the marriage desolved to children that they merely lived with with their one time wives...

    ...confusing, but in the states, just living with children of a new spouse may make you liable for child support later...
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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    Quote Originally Posted by panhunger
    ...a noble cause for sure...in the states, once you have legal custody, that's it, unless you legally relinquish it to someone else...some step fathers have even had to pay child support after the marriage desolved to children that they merely lived with with their one time wives...

    ...confusing, but in the states, just living with children of a new spouse may make you liable for child support later...
    Wow, I don't think thats the case in the UK - but then I don't know.

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    No, I don't think it is. The father, not the stepfather, is responsible, I'm sure.
    Excuse my ignorance, but if you're married to the mother you're already 'tied' to the kids, and have no need to adopt, or is it that you would feel closer/more responsible that way?
    I would have thought that if you adopted kids then that would make you financially responsible for them in the event of any breakdown, whereas if they were your stepkids you wouldn't be.
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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    In the cases that I am familar with (friends) they are not responsible for the children of another father. The birth father is responsible for supporting the children. That is in my state anyway.

    If it is different in that the man would be responsible for someone else kids with out legal adoption that would be mad. Shit women would just get married and divorced and have more and more children because every father along the way would have to pay support...

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    Quote Originally Posted by Jon
    No, I don't think it is. The father, not the stepfather, is responsible, I'm sure.
    Excuse my ignorance, but if you're married to the mother you're already 'tied' to the kids, and have no need to adopt, or is it that you would feel closer/more responsible that way?
    I would have thought that if you adopted kids then that would make you financially responsible for them in the event of any breakdown, whereas if they were your stepkids you wouldn't be.
    Yes Jon I am tied to the child through marriage to his mother. The two sisters are both over 18 and have kids and husbands / partners of their own. We are moving to England if the paperwork goes through. My wife said something about the idea of adoption, to me the other day and I donít know anything about it really.

    I think that it is not something I want to do right now anyway. As it is I need a wheelbarrow to move the forms and copies form translator to ministry to embassy as it is. I just what to know the options and what others have done.

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    Quote Originally Posted by mig
    KW - thats because you are a good father. My kid's father abandonded him and his two sisters and mother and never sees them.
    sorry i should have added that exceptions to that would be when the father is unkown, not around or passed away!

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    it's not the case each and every time but there have been cases that husbands, who are not the legal father, have been ordered to pay child support!!!

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    Quote Originally Posted by bewildered wanderer
    ^^ gonna try to raise damaged goods?

    that is something that happens often in LoS
    Damaged goods? Wtf do you mean damaged? Because they weren't born to the right father? Big red to on this one.

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    Well,
    shit I got a red. here asper let put that red on your lips so you can kiss my ass with it

    Making the point that the birth father may have been a bad influence on the kid... rubs off on the kid, and then you are stuck dealing with some kid's shit. I can see dealing with my own flesh and blood's shit, but not some Thai drunken farmer's progeny...
    especially if they be competing with my own
    send them off to yai's upcountry

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    Re: Adopting a child of a new spouse

    mig, so you're moving with the one kid, leaving the other two behind, right? I was just wondering what difference actual adoption would mean to you, since it wouldn't be necessary in order for the kid to come with you, would it? In other words, wouldn't adoption be something desired by the mother and maybe you, as maybe some symbolic form of commitment to the kid, or is there a legal reason why adoption is required? In a clumsy way I'm wondering about the need to legally adopt the children of one's wife. I see why people adopt orphans, etc, but I don't understand, but am interested in knowing, why people need or want to adopt their new spouse's kid/s, when they have already accepted them into the family.

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