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    To Breed or not to Breed

    I have put it off for long enough but now The Wife has dropped the bombshell - she wants children.

    I have many different reasons for not wanting to be a Father, among them my bad relationship with my Father, laziness, my desire to travel the world, my complete dislike of children and....

    .... what annoys me the most and what I hear every day is - Wow a half foreigen child, must be so good looking, make money out of him / her, put him / her on TV, we'll baby sit for you every day.

    Anyone else reluctant to breed or is it just me?

    Fortunately The Wife has told me that she is not ready yet and that she wants children in two or three years time so there is hope that I might suffer some bizarre accident that leaves me sterile.
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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    Ain't that the rub!

    Don't know man, but good luck.

    I like your sig.

    Me, I gotta have a kid.

    I wanna wait a few. Defender just said he's not

    been out for a nice meal for two years. That's scary.

    Not YET. I've still got some ego that needs attention!!!
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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    Quote Originally Posted by Matthew
    I like your sig.
    Cheers mate - Jim Morrison.

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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    It's another one of life's journey's lads.

    Not something that's easy to explain, only experience.

    It has made me a better person than I was and the negative challenges are part of that.

    I'd recommend it to any sane healthy person.
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    Faith, by itself, isn't a good enough reason to believe. Instead, a belief must be defensible through reason, logic, and evidence.
    The idea that faith is somehow justified by the fact that the beliefs cannot be proven is a truly Orwellian position to adopt - not to mention intellectually and ethically dangerous.

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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    ive enjoyed having my daughter. it is alot of work not only for your wife but for you as well. im glad we did it when we did as i am still pretty young. Have a kid...why not?
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    Prefacing this with the fact that I myself will never have kids...

    I have watched the change in my brother when he finally, at age 47, got his wife pregnant with twin girls through artificial insemination.

    The transformation has been quite remarkable. None of 'us' kids had good relationships with our parents. But somehow the fathering instinct was still quite intact in my brother. He has become a loving daddy and his girls (now 4) are amazing examples of what a joyous homelife can foster.

    Barring a miracle (that my boyfriend will get pregnant), I'll never have kids. But if I were you, I wouldn't sell your fathering skills short. You could be a wonderful father and not know it.


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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    Jim Morrison - now he was a father!

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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    Quote Originally Posted by LeedsLeedsLeeds
    I have many different reasons for not wanting to be a Father, among them my bad relationship with my Father,
    Time for you to show your father how it is done, bad relationships are not hereditary

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    laziness,
    Sounds like it will do you good!

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    my desire to travel the world,
    My 23 month old has been overseas 5 times and my 5 month old twice - hasn't slowed us down!

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    my complete dislike of children and....
    Well this may be a little harder! Just remember your own children are way better then someone elses!

    You wont regret it!

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    I think father-hood will be the biggest transformation yet!

    How can it not alter your lifestyle dramatically.

    Leeds..Leeds...Leeds.....based on your posts, reactions, ideas, thoughts, writing style, etc.... (on ajarn) you will be a remarkable father...

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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    Thanks to all of you for your positive comments. Perhaps having kids would be a good thing for me, it might bring certain skills and feelings to the surface that I never knew I had. By the way, I'd just been to a ten year olds birthday party when I made the original post. I don't totally dislike kids but seeing them running around screaming, hurting themselves, getting into fights with each other and acting like spoilt brats really tests my patience. Fortunately there was a fridge full of beer so I got drunk with the fathers of the kids.

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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    Quote Originally Posted by LeedsLeedsLeeds
    Fortunately there was a fridge full of beer so I got drunk with the fathers of the kids....
    and then proceeded to run around screaming, hurting yourself, and getting into fights with each other and acting like a spoilt brat!


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    I felt a lot like you when my wife announced she wanted a kid. 3 years we tried, visiting fertility clinics in the end. Finally were told we could not make a kid. 3 months later the wife was pregnant with twins.

    Bit my fingernails down the first knuckle worrying about twins. The minute they were born all was natural, and normal.

    From not wanting kids to finding out its why you were put on the earth is a big change. It will all work out mate.
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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    I never wanted kids.....and then due to my wicked sperm power (I thought I was a Jaffa) I managed to have one...and it's wicked....hard work, annoying little fucker on occasion...but nevertheless...wicked!!!

    Bear in mind that it's quite easy to sell a half half here....so not a biggie if you find you're not cracked up to be a father mate I've got a stall at JJ/CC!


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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    Quote Originally Posted by kenkannif
    I never wanted kids.....and then due to my wicked sperm power (I thought I was a Jaffa)
    Jaffa? Sorry, I don't get the reference. Here, a Jaffa is an acronym for 'Just Another Fancy Fucking Aucklander'. In the context in which you wrote you surely don't mean that, do you?

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    Re: To Breed or not to Breed

    jaffa = seedless.





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