As a new father of a 1/2 Thai kid I am shocked at the things my Isaan born wife has to do, on the advice of her mother.
For example 1.She cannot leave the house for a month.
2. She cannot sit in front of a fan.
3. She has to wear socks , a cap and plenty of warm clothing.
4. The baby can only lay with his head at sunrise.
5. She cannot go upstairs.
6. She has to drink a concoction of herbs ( looks like twigs to me) for a month.UGH!
7. You cannot let another baby into the house.( this one caused a major upheaval in my house when the wife's cousin arrived to stay and help, with her 10 month old son. We had to go and get a special plant, boil it and spit it all over the stairs of the house and then the other baby could stay in another room).
8.You cannot say the baby is beautiful, you have to say he is ugly
A friend also told me that some Thai people believe a woman cannot have sex for 3 months as the semen will spread throughout the body and into the ears, nose and mouth.
Have you heard of any of these?
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You've obviouly got a lot to learn.
I've been through that myself (But not Thai). The best thing your wife could ever do (after stomach has settled down) is do sit up's. That'll tighten her stomach muscles and produce a nice figure after.
She'll probably be in bed for a month too.. It's yours and her families responsibility to look after her for a month.Originally Posted by tayto
Is it mixed with whiskey or just water? If it is, that works well. My wife kept a few bottles of it stored for a few months before childbirth, then started sipping it daily...... Cleans the body and boosts milk etc. That was originally Chinese medicine and then adapted by the Khmer....which is why they do it in Isaan too.
Better get used to it quick
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To be honest Rog, those are the only points worth commenting on. The rest seem like a load of crap to me so be strong Tayto you're going to need a lot of patience as long as the in-laws are calling the shots.
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man, superstitious bs is cool/funny (from a distance) but when it starts to run your life, ehh, not so cool anymore.
Thats right.... And to be honest, I know Khmer/Isaan culture means that the father is basically shunned away for a while because it's womans work..... But if there was anything remotely like any compromise which ANY relationship HAS to have, Why can't Tayto have a talk to the Mrs and work out something decent? Is he just another puppet on a string?
Exactly right. I've seen it down here with cousins who have had babies then the whole family descends upon the house and imposes what appears to be martial law. The father gets kicked out of the house and is expected to drink rice whisky with all of the old fellas whilst the poor mother is bossed around and forced to listen to old wives tales. Father, Mother and child rarely get any time together to talk and enjoy the moment and no-one understands me when I say that I don't want kids.
Leeds on a list of family, baby and husband where do you think the husband stands? If you say anything other than 3 you're wrong. If the OP didn't know this going in, it's a little late now.
It's not runing my life in any way and I'm enjoying the experience of fatherhood for the fourth time. I am only commenting on the various customs and beliefs of my Khmer/Isaan wife .
thats good. glad youre not as frustrated as your OP seems to convey.
I have three children that are half Khmer. Oldest is 17....youngest is 7. I knew about the cultural rituals and things that go on during child birth. I realised that i had to be "culturally sensitive" but, also my wife realised that I was part of the equation too. I didn't have to worry about being shifted out or anything like that. My wife and her family understood that there was a western side to our lives too.
Welcome to the 4th world.
That's great. I have an Isaan wife also, so I understand (well as much as one can understand I guess). At the end of the day the good far outweighs the bad. BTW I'm told that in the old days the new mother had to lie next to a roaring fire for 30 days, so things have changed a bit.
Forgot to ask, boy or girl?
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My wife says if she was in Isaan she would have to sleep on top of a roaring fire for 30 days.
Here, I bought her one of those walk in and zip up, sauna thingys from Big C.
I have three children that are half Khmer. Oldest is 17....youngest is 7. I knew about the cultural rituals and things that go on during child birth. I realised that i had to be "culturally sensitive" but, also my wife realised that I was part of the equation too. I didn't have to worry about being shifted out or anything like that. My wife and her family understood that there was a western side to our lives too.
Ditto.
thats good. glad youre not as frustrated as your OP seems to convey.
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Jeez, tayto. He really is, isn't he?
Just pulling your leg.
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