Sanitysub is of the fairer sex m8.
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Riddle me this brother can you handle it
Your style to my style you can't hold a candle to it
Equinox symmetry and the balance is right
Smokin' and drinkin' on a Tuesday night
It's not how you play the game it's how you win it
I cheat and steal and sin and I'm a cynic
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I find sumfink positive in most situations Nick
as u prolly already know
Everyone here has to deal with visas.
Really pretty weak excuses in my opinion. However I am skeptical about the entire thing. She has insurance if she works at Katsakorn. So the medical fees are covered. If you decide not to get involved in the kid's life (if this is not a scam) to a large degree but not be a deadbeat dad, there are good infant care centers in Bangkok and they are not expensive. You could fund that, and the international kindergarten in a few years, etc. Of course get the paternity test.
If you want to spend your life with this woman, why wouldn't you buy the house in her name (after the P Test). It is a better option that structuring it in your name if she is a scammer anyway. Then she can just kick you out instead of hiring Khun Somchai, the guy behind all those Thai smiles.
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If you want to challenge the world's most powerful factions, you're going to get attacked in all sorts of ways. That's the nature - the essence - of power: it is capable of exacting a cost for defying it.--Glenn Greenwald
you either give a shit about your kid and make an action plan or you say fuck it, and forget it all.
who cares about your past telecom industry blabber. you either forget it, be a long distance daddy, or get your ass here and figure it the fuck out.
that, or stop asking such stupid fucking questions.
man, i was in your spot in a way. i got a girl pregnant, sans marriage. what to do?
-abort the kid
-keep the kid and split
-keep the kid and work it out
not too fucking hard a choice, although the road is hard (my kid was just born) but the road mending a relationship was tough, as getting preggo without a long term plan can be stressful- and we were stressed. big time.
but ultimately you have only a couple choices. if you look inside yourself, you will know what to do.
stop philandering and decide. if you want to be a dad, move to thailand.
if you want to get her stateside, then do what it takes. if she wont and youre really powerless, then move here, or stop bitching. (or i guess you could just send money to her , which usually ends you up in a stickman column)
i suggest talking to your friends. they know you best. this is a rough rough call. on the other hand, if you know that you wont accept anything less than being a dad, its a simple thing from that point on.
if you want neither, then its easiest for you to just turn your back.
I think the OP should first suggest to the lady in question that she has this pregnancy confirmed by somebody with medical knowledge before he moves onto paternity worries...it may be that she is just stressed or not eating well and isn't pregnant at all...
ETA: I have had another thought (unlikely - but in the event of this lady not reading the information contained with her pills thoroughly): Is she taking a break between sheets or is she taking another sheet as soon as the last is finished? If the latter then her periods will stop. They will stop and not return until she takes a break...Unlikely, but "just in case".
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I read it all, every word, and I still don't understand a thing. Travis
stfranalum is right on, well said man.
ลาน้องก่อน พี่จนถึงต้องจำจาก, ถึงแม้พี่จะหลงรัก ฐานะพาพราก ต้องจากจอมใจ
ถ้าหากมั่งมี แล้วพี่จะคืนมาใหม่, ไม่ว่าจะอยู่แห่งไหน จะนานเท่าไร ยังไม่ลืมบาง...
i was in a bind recently just like this dude.
but i want to be a father so bad, im willing to make some sacrifices. it isnt perfect, and i do need to reapt that to myself. but saying you cant move to thailand because of your job or political strife...give me a break. its simply about priorities.
but i get the sense this is just a wind up.
consider me had.
Op here. Again I appreciate the positive comments and for the negative guys....."you can take a flying leap up a billy goat's ass," as my grandmother would say so eloquently.
There are many possibilities here and I'm trying to sort through them thinking that there might be some people here that have been through similar situations and might have found things I have not yet considered.
This girl is pregnant as confirmed by her doctor already, she is university educated, works in a bank, and isn't a bargirl.
I'm trying to think of options if she doesn't not want to move here. Maybe an American company that would hire me. I'd work at McDonalds if I had to and thought I could make a modest income to be closer. I wonder what the prospects are of landing a job with an American company in Thailand. Anyone have experience with this?