How many of you have had to sit through a coworker in your office who couldn't keep his fucking mouth shut about how smart he is.
This is a bit of a rant, but this guy has had me on my last nerve. I work in a language school where there is a lot of down time in the office with my white coworkers. Most of us our in our late 20's to early 30's and while not always the sharpest knives in the drawer, none of us are complete idiots.
This guy we work with is in Japan working on his dissertation for a Doctorate in Japanese studies about stress in the workplace and Japanese people abroad, readjusting to the social pressures of home. He sits in the office while we work and lectures to us rather than discussing many aspects of Japanese society. He has contributed greatly to organizing events and trying to make some of the things in the place run smoothly.
However, when it comes to teaching extra lessons and picking up the slack where it needs to be, he bitches constantly about it to the point where he's starting to piss off some of the Japanese staff. Then he bitches that he doesn't have enough classes
If you disagree with something he says, he will try to shoot you down as though you're not qualified to understand the concepts beings discussed, and he never shuts up! It's gotten to the point where half of the people in the office can't even sit there around him because he makes us crazy. He's also very quick to point out everybody else's shortcomings at times when it's not appropriate. He's insecure.
He's very easy to offend and when you do offend him, he doesn't accept apologies easily. Furthermore, it you ask him for a favor, he will always remember that he did it for you and will hold it over you. This is just a rant. Now I just try to stay out of the office
How many of you have had to deal with a douchebag like this in your office?
more time for wastin'
Worked with plenty....most likely have been thought of as one by plenty people to
A place I worked at had someone similar to that but, most of us simply went down to Starbucks or a restaurant when we had a break.
Daniel Bedingfield claimed that his new album is what it would sound like if Sting, Stevie Wonder and Micheal Jackson were in a basement together - I haven't got the album so I'll have to imagine the sound of a blind bloke and a Geordie kicking the shit out of a pedophile.
It's like a universal law of workplaces.
If one of these guys isn't there, someone will evolve into one.
We could all sit outside on banana lounges discussing the best way to rebuild a 4WD transmission and agree, through shared stories of conquests supporting our assertions, that there is no basis to the proposition that those least assured of their persuasions are the first to condemn others for theirs.
In a past life when I was an engineer this guy joined the section and he had more bits of paper to his name than most of the rest of us put together,
Didn't stop him being a clueless **** when it came to actually doing anything practical though.
If you eliminate the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth
What a dick! Have you considered violence? This guys needs a kick in the nuts.
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We're pretty lucky now - 17 foreign teachers and very little friction. Wasn't always that way, though. We've had our share of assholes. The most recent was a born again Christian in his late 50s who turned out to be a two faced, back stabbing, lying, lazy jerk. We took care of him with a well planned campaign which eventually led to his dismissal. You gotta get creative and , well... play dirty at times to ensure a relatively peaceful work enviroment. Who wants to go to work 5 days a week and put up with assholes? Shit, that's unlealthy.
Where's there a will, there's a way.
Two or more of you should go to his manager and strongly request that he/she talk to the guy. If the manager has no backbone then two or more of you just do an intervention i.e. take him to a bar for a drink and tell him straight to his face he is being an ass (it usually helps to be diplomatic about it). There is no point in letting this ass ruin your work place. Unfortunately, he probably doesn't realize he is being an ass AND won't believe just one person (other than his manager) telling him.
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I see the best option is to just go around him and avoid the office when I can. I don't think he's aware of his behavior and if he is, I don't think he cares. He treats a few people in the office with a slight bit more respect, so I sometimes think he's either trying to look down at the people he can or he's trying to secure the only people he feels are worthy of his friendship. Those people are relatively indifferent.
I'd prefer not to rock the boat as I don't want to shit where I work. The thing with this guy is that he acts differently when there's multiple people in the room as opposed to one or two, sort of like a teenager. Life's too short to cause unneeded aggravation, I'd just prefer to vent about it here.
Have someone write a death threat in Japanese. Put it in his briefcase when he is eating noodles.
He will find it and ask a Japanese staff to translate it.
He won't last a week. Fucking hell, I deserve greens for that one!
Just blank him, he'll soon get the message.
For this particular reason, working at a government school has its perks. We are just about to come off a 6 week paid holiday. Prior to this the principal sent us to Rayong, paid, too short really, could have spent an extra day there but you can't complain when it's free.
Last year was a nightmare, just got back from the UK and was really relaxed but then had to come back to the day to day grind of putting up with somebody who was an annoyance. He was a real pain in the proverbial, always had something to moan about. Also passing on his work to you and just a real pain most of the time.
Typical examples of things he would say or do: Referring to The Queen of England, "f&*^ the queen, she is *&*(^*&" "There are so many foreign scumbags in this country" "I am Irish (then putting on his fake Irish accent (he wasn't Irish, he was Thai/Indian) we Irish blah blah blah" "Even though you are a native speaker, I think I can speak your language better than you (The irony was when he was dismissed from our school, it was me he came to, to write him a reference because he liked the presentation of mine so much)"
If he had just chilled out he would still be working there now, he had to be told like no less than a million times about doing some messed up stuff, example: He invites a parent to come into the staffroom to try to request the parent to send his daughter to my class (grade 6), she was in grade 2 at the time because he felt this would benefit his daughter because she was so advanced in English. Now, fair enough, she is very good at English, it's her first language since she was in the US for kindergarten but..... Now, hold on that isn't the best part. As he's telling the parent of this child why he thinks he should request that his child be placed in grade 6, he is full on sucking his thumb. He did have a lot of warnings about this. Actually, it was pretty messed up, for whatever reason he does it, weird guy man. So, at which point, I want to close this meeting because it is just a complete waste of time and he was making us all look like lunatics.
Just rest assured, no matter how bad your day was, it can always get worse.
Here is a simple way to deal with those kind of people....
Don't give a fuck. Don't give a shit about what they're saying. To do anything else panders to their need for attention. Why play their game? Look at them straight in the face and say, "While you might be right, I don't really give a fuck." Suggest to them you expect the same candor from them.
If they keep on spewing their tripe, tell them to shut the fuck up and remind them that at least Ajarnforum.com doesn't have sound. Remind them that their wisdom would be more appreciated here than in front of your desk.
It's worked for me, but I'm not really good at the social skills sort of thing.
I have an asshole to deal with as well. I think what I'll do is have headsets handy and as soon as he starts talking, I'll put on the headsets and blast some music right in front of his face.