dump them both and take the in-law
Cleaner politics dilemmas....
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Ian McNamara - July 2000
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If the cleaner has opened and gone through the contents of one draw in your house which she shouldn't have, she's been through them all Phil.
You need to get rid of her before she steals something.
Those that want to read whatever they can want all freedoms, but have to understand they can have freedom, but it must be within the law.
This whole thing sounds so lace curtain. Give the maid a thrashing and make her scrub the floors thrice to punish her.
I'm with the wife on this one, and now you'll make sure you're always home when the cleaners around. (if you don't fire her)
When I was in America a guy told me to 'have a nice day' but I didn't, so I sued him
I realise reading back through this thread - and thanks for so many great replies by the way - that I have probably missed out an important piece of info. Although the maid only comes to our house once a week, she is at my mother-in-law's house every day from Monday to Friday doing cleaning and washing etc. She's also there to keep mother-in-law company now that she is getting on a bit. A bit of companionship if you know what I mean.
I know MIL is happy with her work so to me, that made for all the more reason to let the photo album incident slide.
I'm on the wife's side. Not because it was a photo album .. but because she was snooping in a closed drawer. It leads you to think that maybe it's not the first time. It makes you think "What else has she been poking her nose into?"
it's gonna end in tears, with a fair few "I told you so's" and long nights in the doghouse if the maid isn't sorted out quick smart......
Run away with the maid.
Perhaps you can make the boundaries clear, but also if you are willing to leave a few albums out that you (or wife) don't mind her seeing. It can be a win-win for both parties.
boys will be boys.
i don't see the connection at all. It is almost implying that, because she has the opportunity to steal something she eventually will. She had a look at some pictures... I don't think it is that strange (especially as she pretty close to the family being with the inlaw every day). The whole "but what is there were jewels in that draw" makes no sense. Are you telling me that if you saw things of value on display in someone's home you couldn't resist yourself? Or that cleaning ladies are inherently dishonest?
Fair enough, if you wife doesn't feel comfortable about the maid looking at pics, then the maid should be asked not to. You are the employers after all. But the idea that something heinous has been done just doesn't make sense to me.