Is my wife making a big deal out of this?

**jimbo** · 25th March 2011 01:01

dump them both and take the in-law

**Anna Key** · 25th March 2011 01:07

Originally Posted by cluezo

Dump the wife, marry the maid.

I did. (Blushes)

**LDMA** · 25th March 2011 01:55

Cleaner politics dilemmas....

**jonny danger** · 25th March 2011 02:59

Originally Posted by Desertexile

would be in her room masterbating into her satin underies.....

That's sick. I always tape them to my face.

**Classic-Chassis** · 25th March 2011 08:31

If the cleaner has opened and gone through the contents of one draw in your house which she shouldn't have, she's been through them all Phil.
You need to get rid of her before she steals something.

**latm** · 25th March 2011 08:39

Originally Posted by Bangkok Phil

But my wife and mother-in-law are adamant that the cleaner has to be told that she's there to clean and nothing else.

I don't see anything very much wrong with this. If your wife isn't insisting that the cleaner be fired, I certainly understand her view on not wanting someone going through personal items, even when the prospect of theft isn't an issue.

**cluezo** · 25th March 2011 08:55

This whole thing sounds so lace curtain. Give the maid a thrashing and make her scrub the floors thrice to punish her.

**DJ Pat** · 25th March 2011 09:56

I'm with the wife on this one, and now you'll make sure you're always home when the cleaners around. (if you don't fire her)

**Bangkok Phil** · 25th March 2011 10:47

Originally Posted by Desertexile

And alll she was doing was checking the photos, she could have had your boxers shorts and soi 4 shirt on, fondling her old leathery titties through the nice Indian cut.

That's going to keep me giggling all day that is.

---Update---

Originally Posted by Western Devil

Interested in hearing what, if any, verdict there will be on this situation

Apparently the cleaner has now been told by mother-in-law that she is not to go through Phil's drawers. I'm not happy about it. I just hope it was done tactfully.

I realise reading back through this thread - and thanks for so many great replies by the way - that I have probably missed out an important piece of info. Although the maid only comes to our house once a week, she is at my mother-in-law's house every day from Monday to Friday doing cleaning and washing etc. She's also there to keep mother-in-law company now that she is getting on a bit. A bit of companionship if you know what I mean.
I know MIL is happy with her work so to me, that made for all the more reason to let the photo album incident slide.

---Update---

Originally Posted by DJ Pat

I'm with the wife on this one, and now you'll make sure you're always home when the cleaners around. (if you don't fire her)

That's another thing my wife can't get her head around. I can't stand someone cleaning when I'm trying to work so when the maid arrives with a wet mop, I disappear into the garden and do an hour's pottering around. I try to schedule things so when the maid is here, I bugger off into Bangkok and no one gets in anyone's way. But my wife genuinely hates the thought of a cleaning woman alone in our house. I better not say anything about standing in front of the mirror in my soi 4 shirt and fondling her old leathery titties. Rarely will a Thai sense of humor stretch that far.

**keekwai** · 25th March 2011 11:25

I'm on the wife's side. Not because it was a photo album .. but because she was snooping in a closed drawer. It leads you to think that maybe it's not the first time. It makes you think "What else has she been poking her nose into?"

**Slim Chance** · 25th March 2011 11:33

it's gonna end in tears, with a fair few "I told you so's" and long nights in the doghouse if the maid isn't sorted out quick smart......

**russellsimpson** · 25th March 2011 11:36

Originally Posted by Bangkok Phil

Although the maid only comes to our house once a week, she is at my mother-in-law's house every day from Monday to Friday doing cleaning and washing etc. She's also there to keep mother-in-law company now that she is getting on a bit. A bit of companionship if you know what I mean.

Well now.......that little bit of information changes the whole dynamic.

Given that information it sounds like the maid is a bit more than just the maid, but rather almost a peripheral "family" member.

Let the women sort it out.

Anyway, it's been a fine read.

**keekwai** · 25th March 2011 11:39

Run away with the maid.

**phuketbound** · 25th March 2011 13:11

Originally Posted by russellsimpson

Well now.......that little bit of information changes the whole dynamic. Given that information it sounds like the maid is a bit more than just the maid, but rather almost a peripheral "family" member. Let the women sort it out. Anyway, it's been a fine read.

I agree. I don't see the harm in looking at the photo album, but I can see why your wife may see it as an intrusion of privacy.

Perhaps you can make the boundaries clear, but also if you are willing to leave a few albums out that you (or wife) don't mind her seeing. It can be a win-win for both parties.

**you_me_no_savy_talk_talk** · 25th March 2011 13:17

i don't see the connection at all. It is almost implying that, because she has the opportunity to steal something she eventually will. She had a look at some pictures... I don't think it is that strange (especially as she pretty close to the family being with the inlaw every day). The whole "but what is there were jewels in that draw" makes no sense. Are you telling me that if you saw things of value on display in someone's home you couldn't resist yourself? Or that cleaning ladies are inherently dishonest?

Fair enough, if you wife doesn't feel comfortable about the maid looking at pics, then the maid should be asked not to. You are the employers after all. But the idea that something heinous has been done just doesn't make sense to me.