We have a cleaning lady come to the house every Wednesday morning for a few hours. She's been coming to us for about a year now. She's very polite and works hard. I like her. And so does my wife.
Yesterday, I went downstairs while the cleaner was polishing a chest of drawers and she had opened the bottom drawer where we keep our photo albums. She was lost in her own little world looking at an album of photos we took in England 10 years ago, when I walked in and disturbed her. She tried desperately to force the albums quickly back into the drawer, but to make light of the situation - because I really didn't see any harm in it - I said "I looked a lot thinner ten years ago don't you think" and just laughed it off. But there was no concealing her embarrassment.
In the evening I casually mentioned the event to my wife. I genuinely thought it nothing more than slightly amusing. My wife went ballistic. She phoned her mother. Her mother went twice as ballistic. I begged them both not to say anything to the cleaner because it makes me look like a snitch. And that is not what I want. Sneaking a look at a photo album is perfectly OK with me. No one dies in the process. But my wife and mother-in-law are adamant that the cleaner has to be told that she's there to clean and nothing else.
Whose side are you on?
At least it wasn't the cookie jar,eh? More like Cinderella day-dreaming about something she'll most likely never have.
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Yours. I dont get it and would be bothered if they took it out on the her. Otherwise I would make a mental note not to tell the wife this sort of thing in the future and let it pass.
Jesus Phil, you gotta put your foot down here. No harm done, hell, she has probably been putting your underwear on her head and looking through your porn collection. That is what you get when you have a maid, it is acceptable that other folks are curious as to what kind of porn you like or what that latex gas mask is for. Just normal behaviour. If she ain't stealing, then no problem. She is just curious. Don't mention it, she is embarrassed enough as it is. Tell your mrs not to mention it, it all seems like an over reaction to me.
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Is she required to open the drawers to clean the chest? If yes then I would have no problem with it. If no, then she's going through your personal things when you aren't present and the temptation to steal something could be too great.
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I'd be firm and just tell them both that you'd very much appreciate it if they just dropped their concerns.
Of course I'm not married, so it's easy for me to make such a suggestion.
I'm with you. What's the big deal ?
She has a year of hard work and politeness behind her.
Is that worth nothing?
Can't say I get it. Maybe there is something else going on you're not aware of. Maybe they see this as the start of a much more invasive habit. I'd make it clear that you don't think it was a big deal, but maybe allow your wife to at least show her displeasure with what she sees as an invasion of privacy.
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Yup, maybe you'll just have to stand back and let the wife deal with it as she deems appropriate.
Yup. Nail/Head Mr. Ho.Is she required to open the drawers to clean the chest? If yes then I would have no problem with it. If no, then she's going through your personal things when you aren't present and the temptation to steal something could be too great.
Quite honestly, if that's the worst your maid has done, you're lucky - tell your wife and her mother to chill out, and get off their high "status" horsey. Yes, the maid's job is to clean, but likewise a wife's job is to listen to her husband and STFU ;-)
Seriously, it's quite possible that she opened the drawers as part of the cleaning process, saw the photo albums, and just got curious about - she's human, after all, and not the cleaning robot your wife apparently considers her to be. Maybe a Roomba is better suggested for your wife's rooms.
Although if she had to tug to open the drawer and opening it was not a part of the cleaning process, then she has crossed a certain line.
I know many folks who would be extremely upset with her. And probably can her ASAP. This is a fairly serious intrusion.
It means basically that you can't leave personal and private items as well as jewellery and cash anywhere that isn't secured by a lock.
And everytime you open a drawer you have to wonder if there is anything in there you wouldn't necessarily want a stranger to see.
I'm starting to side with Phil's wife here.
The maid crossed the line.
yeah but you can certailny sack them before a crime is committed.
I don't think you've got any option - your wife no longer trusts her....anything goes missing etc the suspicion will immediately go to the maid.
Its harsh but true.....and I don't think its appropriate for her to go through closed drawers - and going by the maid's reaction she knows it's wrong too.
I don't see a connection between looking at photo albums and theft.
Still, if anyone should be saying something it should be the OP. I'd tell my wife I will talk to her...then nicely explain that I think it best if she didn't go through personal stuff.
At least that's what I think.